No, I Don’t Love You!

There is one thing (almost) every girl dreams of. Her wedding. She visualizes her groom, her cake, her honeymoon, her wedding gown.

She sees herself  walking down the aisle, her prince charming waiting at the end of the line in total anticipation. Or maybe she wants a little private ceremony. With just a few people, the ones who matter – her groom, her parents, her friend(s). The one they call an intimate ceremony.

1 But there is one more thing that every girl need – an engagement. By engagement I mean, do not be what we call ‘brothers of signs and wonders.’ You show the girl all the signs that you are interested in her, then you suddenly take off and leave her wondering what happened.

Let the girl know that you are interested in making an honest woman out of her-by putting a ring on it. That means, when you are courting her, don’t behave like you are sampling a few then settling for the best.

Few things feel as bad as a girl beginning to like you, then realizing she is just one of them in the list. That you are sampling many to choose from. It’s a complete turn off.

Long before I met my Prince Charming, Kamana, there was someone who was showing ‘signs’. Guys, no matter how much we pretend to act surprised when you finally ask us to marry you, we always see it coming. always. So I had seen the signs. My heart was beginning to warm up to this one and waiting for the time I will say, “let me pray about it!”Well, the time never came. The warmth in my heart froze when I realized he was sampling a few others.

I know crushes do happen, and especially for us ladies, the worst thing we can do is actually act on it. Ask me I will tell you. I had a crush in my ignorant days that almost ruined a very good friendship. So ladies, hold your horses. The joy of the game is in being chased.

So you told a girl you love her and she gave you the chinese eye scold and the indian shrug? That was before she said, “I don’t love you”, right?Here’s why.

We don’t want to be merely girlfriends. We want to be the only one who capture your heart. Even if we finally get to be your choice, the nagging notion that we were not the only fish in the sea doesn’t go away. we want you to say to us like Solomon, “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.”  Mistari 😉 !!

One of the reasons why Kamana is such a great guy is because he wasn’t sampling. And we always know the ‘samplers’ so believe me, I knew :). He met me, he liked me, he loved me, he told me he loves me and wants me to be his wife, he married me.

Contrary to what the soaps have taught you, there is nothing good in being a Casanova. End the games right now and let the girl of your dreams know you have eyes for only her. And when she does, she will both love you to bits, and respect you forever.

This sampling does not only taint your character, but it also leads you to waste your precious single years. And if you aren’t content in being single, you will NOT be content in being married or ‘hooked up’.

Your spouse compliment you, not completes you. You ultimately get your completion from the Lord. So, serve him while you are still single, and when the Lord gives that girl, give her a proper engagement. She deserves it.